The critically acclaimed book “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero grabbed me by the title a year ago and so I bought the book. Many of my peers had already read it and talked about how much they enjoyed it. I felt the go-getter energy exuding from the cover so I anxiously dived in. Let’s just say, I was not disappointed. Jen was so real and so blunt and although we had differences on what I see as God and as she refers to as “the universe”; I totally was able to connect with what she was saying. Her teachings are so practical and yet so enlightening. My favorite part is her directive at the end of every chapter that tells me to love myself. Here are seven habits of a badass that have inspired me to always walk in my “badassness”.
1. “Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities.” (page 60)
This has a lot to do with the law of attraction. What we meditate on is what we draw into our atmosphere. I loved this reminder because it inspired me to write entirely new affirmations for the things I want to positively manifest in my life. It’s amazing how meditating on the positive instead of the negative changes how you feel and brightens your outlook on life. Lovies let this be a lesson to you. Change your thoughts, change your words, change your actions, and your will change your life.
2. “When you love yourself enough to stand in your truth no matter what the cost, everyone benefits.” (page 182)
I love this quote in particular because it reminds me that know myself is to love myself and that is what it is all about. When you know who you are, no one can sway you. When you know your God given purpose in life no one can take that away from you. We must all come to a point in life where we can own our truth independent of what anyone else thinks or feels about it. That is when we can truly say we are practicing self-love. We are priceless and because we recognize this worth we have, everyone truly benefits.
3. “Trade in your drama about how you can’t have what you want for the grateful expectation that miracles will walk into your life, and the more commonplace those miracles will become.” (page 118-119)
Let’s face the facts, we all have pity parties at times, but the other side to that is that those pity parties never change anything about our circumstances. In those moments we need to take the time to be grateful for all of the many blessings that we have. Being grateful brings light and hope for even better. This hope can be translated as expectation and when we expect the best, we get the best. I don’t know about you all, but I am putting this into practice daily. Trust me, my life is about to get a whole lot better so you haven’t seen anything yet.
4. “No matter how clueless you may feel right now, pay attention to suggestions and opportunities that suddenly present themselves… Take the first step in the direction of something that feels right and see where it leads you. And do it NOW.” (page 75-76)
Life has no road map and destiny has no end. This is when we know it’s time to JUMP! Many times in life we won’t know where to begin, but sometimes that’s the key. We just need to do it. I will never forget when I first became a makeup artist. I was unsure of so many things, but honestly, I just decided to dive in. As I took the first step, the next steps were revealed. I was amazed at how well things began to progress. About two years later I ended up winning a scholarship to makeup school and the rest is history. My plan didn’t develop until after I decided to take the leap of faith and though it works the other way around, many times taking the first step opens the gateway to the future. The time is now and the person is you, so get to it.
5. “On the other side of your fear is freedom.” (page 171)
This year I vowed that I would be fearless. I am taking more chances and beginning more new projects than ever. Things that I would not have applied for in the past, I have applied for and I look forward to applying for more things. We miss 100 percent of the chances we don’t take, so this year I will take all of the chances and force fear into submission because this year I am walking in freedom and you can too.
6. “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
I am reaching this painful point in a lot of places in my life. My job, living at home and living in Birmingham, AL. I know that I am nearing my departure from my career with the government and am currently putting things in place because it is not my set place. I moved back home after college and ended up staying way longer than planned in my childhood home due to launching businesses. This was my way to keep expenses low while becoming established. I have found that now being in my childhood home in my lovely city is becoming a bit smothering. I know soon it will be time to take a risk and go places I haven’t gone before. I am so excited to take these risk because it is truly time for me to blossom.
7. “Love yourself.”
As stated in my opening, this is my favorite reminder in the book, which is beautifully nestled at the end of every chapter. As much as I preach loving yourself, I must admit this is a constant practice for me as well, which is why I am so passionate about it. For years, I struggled with this and I frankly still have my moments but thank God, I am not where I use to be. Lovies, this is the most powerful principle you can grasp and I hope that my journey continues to light the way for you to love yourselves better.
Until next time…remember you are a badass!