Girl, have you lost your mind?
I did not set any goals for 2020 coming into the new year. I know what you are thinking as you clutch your invisible pearls; you are saying, how sway? You own businesses, you’re a blogger, you’re branding yourself for coaching and motivational speaking so how is it that you have no goals? Let’s revisit my statement. I did not say I don’t have any goals. I simply said I did not set any goals, meaning, I did not set any new goals because I have plenty of goals that carried over into the New Year.
Here is the thing. Upon entering the new year, my only focus has been me as a whole. My peace of mind, my relationship with God, gaining ground financially, and my fitness/health goals have taken precedence over everything else in my life. I have a theory that the success of my businesses and any other endeavors begin with me. Frankly, if I am not the best me, then I cannot provide the best services, products or content to my clients, readers, and supporters.
So what now?!
In order to refocus, I first have to take a step back and refuel. I decided that the first quarter of this year is when I am doing just that. I’m not launching any new projects as of yet and as a matter of fact, most of anything I launch won’t be before we reach the midpoint of the year. Now, just because I am not launching new things does not mean I am not working on new things in the background. It simply means I am pacing myself and not overloading myself with tasks, but instead realigning with purpose.
Pushing purpose over tasks is my real focus this year. We all want to be the best and that is admirable, but being the best cost. It costs time, money, sleep, etc. It is really a true sacrifice. I’ve made this sacrifice many times over in the past, but sometimes we have to come to a point and realize that everything starts and ends with the state of where we are personally. In order for me to provide optimum service and output; I have to also input what is necessary for me personally. Remember, my word for the year is self-stewardship, which I explained in a previous blog post here.
Making the decision to just float into the New Year was not an easy one because I am the queen of goal setting and vision boards; however, just making it to 2020 was an accomplishment in itself for me. Let me be specific about the 3 reasons I made the decision to not set any goals for 2020 and how I am navigating this unchartered territory:
Getting It Together!
Sometimes the Best Help is When you Help Yourself.
After barely making it out of 2019 with my sanity, I had to have a come to Jesus moment with myself which led me to sit down somewhere. We are taught to push, push, push. Push past the pain, push past procrastination, and push past being stagnant, but I would like to challenge your thinking in regards to those things.
What happens when the pain consumes you? How do you push past without first dealing with that pain and then healing from that pain? What if it isn’t procrastination at all, but instead electing to take a break from it all because you need to practice more intentional self-care with no distractions? Finally, what if you aren’t stagnant, but instead you are still to hear from God so that the next move you make will be the best move you make? All of those alternatives are where I currently reside.
I am focusing on my healing and wholeness from the inside out. My spirit, mind, body, soul, and emotions took major blows last year and I am happy to say that I am living in a place of peace. I made a conscious decision to focus on myself and it is the best decision I could have made for myself.
I began my year with 21 days of fasting and prayer and although I am still working on consistency with God, it is definitely proving to be an amazing spiritual journey. My mind is clearer. I can actually think without being bombarded with guilt and shame, which is major. Even my body goals are coming into alignment. I am actually living a keto lifestyle and dropping weight. This is definitely a very exciting time for me physically. Lastly, I am learning to manage my emotions in a healthier way and although I have a long way to go, I am progressing nicely.
Pushing Purpose Over Tasks
It’s Not Enough to Just Be Busy.
When you are used to being busy like I am, being still can be a challenge. I now realize that being busy is not always purpose-driven, but instead task-driven. This is when I made the decision that I only want to move with purpose and in order to do that, I had to really begin to think about why I am here on this earth and what God desires of me. Admittedly, I just prayed yesterday morning and asked God if I am walking in my ordained purpose and if I am not then I want him to completely redirect my path. Just being busy is not enough; walking in purpose while being blessed and booked is the goal.
I encourage each of you to really press in and make sure you are pursuing purpose because people are waiting on you and that thing that only YOU can provide. Now, I have prayed for divine connections with people that will catapult me and my purpose to the next level. Daily I thank God for the connections and doors of open opportunity even though I have no idea who they are or when they will happen. I am manifesting everything God has for me with this mustard seed faith, intentional words, and corresponding actions.
Staying in My Lane
It’s Time to Stop Focusing on Other People.
It is so easy to chase someone else’s dream because it seems like they are so much farther than you. This is something I had to learn not to do. Doing what someone else is doing does not guarantee that you will be successful as they are at it and frankly I’m known for being a trendsetter, not a copycat. I’ve always been different even when I did not want to be, but now I bask in my uniqueness and see it as a gift so I can’t allow imposter syndrome to creep up.
It is so easy to get caught up in the curse of comparison, which I talked about in a former post. Remember, what we see on social media is the success after the journey, so we never know what people went through or their process of getting where they are now. Trust me, I know the pain of feeling like you are failing and everyone else around you are succeeding.
I swear sometimes it seemed like the harder I worked the more everyone else got ahead, but now my perspective has changed. Currently, I am evaluating what my biggest flaw is in relation to success and unfortunately, it is consistency. I have this little disease called “overcommitment”. When you overcommit yourself to everyone and everything else, it leaves no time for you to truly cultivate that which you love or are passionate about.
Looking Towards the Future.
This year, I am changing that. Beginning in March, I am automating and pre-planning many things so by the time that the 2nd quarter of the year hits, I can go full throttle. I have to be consistent no matter if I have 1 client or 100 clients; whether I have 5 sales or 1000 sales, and whether I have 3 speaking engagements or 30.
I would like to challenge those of you who feel that you are not succeeding at life or your business or your weight loss journey or in your finances to re-evaluate your personal behaviors that could be affecting that. Most of all, I want you to STAY IN YOUR LANE. Remember, there is enough for everyone or else we would not all be here, but it is up to us to grab hold of it.
Don’t worry lovies, I will be back to setting more goals and doing vision boards, etc. Just you wait.