Life is hard. I’m sure that most can agree with that statement. I often find myself wondering why things didn’t go a certain way or will things be exactly what I want and need them to be. Sometimes I get anxiety about situations and retreat simply because I can’t see the end from the beginning. Often times, taking a risk is just too risky, but not taking it at all is even more of a risk. I am an analytical thinker. I love with depth. I’m passionate to a fault. I’m a dreamer of all things impossible and well, I’m also emotional. All these things combined can be a masterpiece or a disaster depending on which way it goes. There are days I find it hard to muster up the strength to continue in my pursuits towards purpose, entrepreneurship, and true love. However, I always come back to one thing, QUITTING IN NOT AN OPTION. Here are 5 ways I stay encouraged when my life seems to be a beautiful disaster.
- Pray – I can’t explain how important prayer is. Often times talking to God is better than talking to a friend. Why? Well, because God is going to give you the truth and not just an opinion on a situation like friends will. God won’t steer you wrong. Now, his direction may not be our desirable course of action, but we can guarantee it will lead us to a favorable outcome in the end. I talk to God just like a regular person. There is no pomp and circumstance in my prayer, just raw emotion, and transparency. I mean, after all, God already knows what we did, what we are going to do, and what we are thinking anyway, so there is no need to “dress it up and make it real for Him”. Prayer is our direct line to our source and the comfort God brings is far beyond anything humans can provide.
- Journal – I know it’s easy to just go ahead and post that Facebook status or tweet, but often times those thoughts need to be put in a journal. Why? Because your thoughts are sacred. They aren’t for the scrutiny of the world. They are for you to carefully sort through instead of other people dissecting them. Journaling is a therapeutic way to release. All of that pure emotion can go in a journal where you can track your progress. When you look back sometimes on how you felt about things and how far you have now come, that alone can encourage you to continue. So don’t type, write. You’ll thank me later. I’m preaching to the choir on this one.
- Sing – Sing? But I can’t sing. Who cares? Music is therapeutic and when you sing something you love from the heart that expresses exactly how you are feeling, it is an adrenaline rush like no other. Although I am a singer in real life, when I am going through something and I sing for therapy, I don’t care if every note is wrong and I’m semi off key. I just need to purge. Like seriously! It’s time for me to schedule a jam session now. If singing isn’t your thing, well, there are lots of other options. Maybe running helps you clear your mind or playing basketball or dancing. Whatever your “sing” is, do it. Purging is good for the soul.
- Affirm yourself – last week I provided 60 positive affirmations for you. Affirming ourselves is so important. This is a time where we remind ourselves just how great we are, how much we are loved, and that we deserve the best. We have to encourage ourselves even when there is no one else there to do it. This is what keeps us pressing on through the hardest times of our lives. If you don’t remember anything else, always remember that you are enough, you deserve the best, and you can do anything you set your mind to do.
- Breathe – Sometimes we just have to take a deep breath. Life may be hard, but it’s not impossible. Most of us have far more beautiful moments than we do tragedies. One thing I know about myself is that I can work myself up about nothing at all. It’s so easy for me to get so lost in my own thoughts that I sabotage myself at times because frankly, I’m afraid. I’m afraid that things won’t turn out the way that I want them. These are the times I have to take a step back, quiet my mind, and just BREATHE. Now, it’s your turn. Just inhale greatness and exhale bull shit!
Life may be hard, but guess what? You got this. I’ve got this. WE’VE GOT THIS. Lovies, we don’t have to have it all together right in this moment, things will work out, so just breathe.